16 Dec 2022

Harry and Meghan Netflix: William screamed at me during summit, says Harry

7:27 am on 16 December 2022
Prince Harry and Prince William attend the unveiling of a statue of their mother, Princess Diana, at Kensington Palace, London on 1 July 2021, which would have been her 60th birthday.

File photo. Prince Harry and Prince William in 2021. Photo: AFP

Prince Harry has described how "terrifying" it was to have his brother "scream and shout" at him when they met to discuss his and Meghan's future.

In a Netflix series, Prince Harry says it was his decision, not Meghan's, to leave after plans for a half-in, half-out royal life were rejected during a family meeting at Sandringham.

He says his father said things that "just simply weren't true" as his grandmother, the Queen, looked on.

Buckingham Palace has not commented.

In the latest and final instalments of the docuseries, Harry and Meghan describe why they decided to give up their royal duties and move to the US, claiming they were not supported by the Royal Family during a barrage of negative press that was mainly directed at Meghan.

Meghan talks in detail about how she considered taking her own life. Harry describes how he feels shame looking back at how he reacted, reverting to "Institutional Harry" rather than "husband Harry".

In 2020 the duke and duchess went to Sandringham, the royal estate in Norfolk, to discuss scenarios for the couple's royal role with Harry's father King Charles - then Prince Charles - as well as his brother and grandmother, the late Queen.

He recalls how the meeting went, saying: "It was terrifying to have my brother scream and shout at me and my father say things that just simply weren't true, and my grandmother quietly sit there and sort of take it all in."

He says his preference was to be half in, half out of the Royal Family, with him and Meghan doing their own jobs but also supporting the Queen.

"It became very clear, very quickly that that goal was not up for discussion," he says.

As for the Queen, he says her ultimate responsibility was the institution of the Royal Family.

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The Duke and Duchess of Sussex in the 2022 Netflix series Harry & Meghan. Photo: Screenshot

Harry also says a joint statement was put out after the meeting without his permission in his and his brother's name. The statement denied a story that William had bullied him out of the Royal Family.

He describes the move as a "lie to protect my brother", adding: "There was no other option at this point. I said, 'we need to get out of here'."

He says Meghan had not asked to leave and that saying she drove the decision was "misogyny at its best".

In the latest episodes, Meghan also speaks about how she considered taking her own life, before stepping back from the Royal Family.

"It was like 'all of this will stop if I'm not here,'" she says.

Meghan's mother, Doria Ragland, says hearing her daughter's thoughts "broke my heart".

Prince Harry says he was devastated after his wife confided in him about her struggles,

But he had been "trained" to worry more about what people were going to think, and he "hated himself" for that, he says.

"What she needed was so much more than I was able to give," he adds.

Meghan says that she wanted to seek help but "wasn't allowed to".

Without being specific as to who "they" were, she says: "They were concerned about how that would look for the institution."

The prince adds: "They knew how bad it was. They thought 'Why couldn't she just deal with it?' As if to say, well, 'everybody else has dealt with it, why can't she deal with it?' But this was different. It was really different."

Meghan's mother is seen looking teary-eyed as she shares her account of that time, adding that her daughter's words were "not easy for a mum to hear".

In a reference to press intrusion in her daughter's life, Ms Ragland said: "I knew it was bad, but to just constantly be picked at by these vultures, just picking away at her spirit, that she would actually think of not wanting to be here."

Meghan's mother is seen looking teary-eyed as she shares her account of that time, adding that her daughter's words were "not easy for a mum to hear".

In a reference to press intrusion in her daughter's life, Ms Ragland said: "I knew it was bad, but to just constantly be picked at by these vultures, just picking away at her spirit, that she would actually think of not wanting to be here."

Other revelations from the series include:

  • Harry talks about the breakdown of his relationship with his brother - accusing William's office of trading negative stories about one family member to keep the press away from another. This was something he says they "promised" they would never do when they were younger
  • He describes a "wedge" between him and his brother, adding, "he's now on the institution's side"
  • He says of his relationship with his family: "It looked cold, but it also felt cold."
  • Harry speaks about "a dirty game" within the royal press setup, which he says engages in "constant briefings" and is involved in "the leaking and planting of stories"
  • The prince says "people" were upset Meghan was "'stealing the limelight' or doing the job better than the person who is born to do this"
  • He says he believes press coverage in the Mail on Sunday was linked to Meghan's miscarriage. The Mail on Sunday is yet to comment
  • Meghan says her dad speaking to the press about her and the Royal Family was "incredibly painful," adding it was "very embarrassing for the family"
  • Beyoncé texted Meghan her support after her interview with Oprah Winfrey last year, with Meghan in disbelief that the musician knew who she was
  • Harry says a tweet comparing baby Archie to a chimp was "one of the first things" he saw after the birth in 2019
  • Harry was shocked after he says he was blocked from seeing the Queen when returning from Vancouver to discuss moving away from the UK
  • Prince Harry found attending Prince Philip's funeral "hard", as he was forced to discuss family tensions with his father and brother. He claims that he "had to make peace" that he was "never going to get genuine accountability or a genuine apology"

The final three episodes of the six-part series, titled Harry & Meghan, were released on Thursday.

The filming of the series was completed before the Queen's death in September this year.

Prince Harry's memoir, Spare, will be published in January.

- BBC

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