8 Dec 2021

Best of 2021: Whānau

10:06 am on 23 February 2023

Stories about family love, connection and reconnection.
 

How to build a secure relationship with your child

Sometimes stress makes parents less reliable than their child needs them to be. Clinginess can be a sign your child has lost faith that they are loved, says parenting coach Joseph Driessen.

father and young daughter

father and young daughter Photo: Caroline Hernandez / Unsplash

Dividing up the domestic mental load

In many homes around the world, women manage the family calendar and make sure everybody is where they need to be when they need to be, says sociologist Allison Daminger.

Young and tired woman lying on sofa with laptop, toys lying on the floor

Photo: 123RF

 

Jo Guy: find your lighthouse person

Caring for her grandchildren after their father Scott was killed, Jo Guy realised how many other children needed help. She has written a children's book called The Search for the Lighthouse People.

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Jo Guy Photo: Supplied

How to talk about vaccination with someone you care about

Neuropsychologist Hannah Korrel is vaccinated against Covid-19 and dating someone who isn't. Whether differing views are a deal-breaker for your relationship comes down to the individuals, she says.

couple talking

Photo: Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels

How 'active grieving' can help us move on

In 2017, Julie Zarifeh's husband Paul died of cancer. Sixteen days later, her son Sam died on a rafting trip. To cope with her loss, Julie drew on the idea of 'active grieving'.

Julie Zarifeh is a consultant clinical psychologist.

Julie Zarifeh is a consultant clinical psychologist. Photo: Lottie Hedley LANDSCAPE

I was fathered by a fertility doctor

Joey Hoofdman's biological father was Jan Karbaat – a Dutch fertility doctor who inseminated Joey's mother with his own sperm and without her knowledge.

Joey Hoofdman (2nd from left) with four of his approximately 90 biological half siblings

Joey Hoofdman (2nd from left) with four of his approximately 90 biological half siblings Photo: supplied

 

Boomers vs Millennials (aka 'Snowflakes') vs...?

Throughout history, it's always been the latest generation of young people who are viewed as uniquely wrong or weird, says Professor Bobby Duffy.

couple walking baby

Photo: Jakob Owens

 

How I found forgiveness for my father after he sued me

Melbourne journalist Mimi Kwa seemed to be living her best life when she was sideswiped by the news her own father was taking her to court.

Australian journalist and writer Mimi Kwa

Australian journalist and writer Mimi Kwa Photo: Supplied

Avi and Eva: sisters side by side

Indonesian-born siblings Eva Corne and Avi Nurhidayati Damerell talk about white men who travel to their home country, the fetishisation of Asian women and their parallel lives in Whangārei.

(L-R) Eva Corne and sister Avi Nurhidayati Damerell

(L-R) Eva Corne and sister Avi Nurhidayati Damerell Photo: Saraid de Silva and Julie Zhu

My quest to uncover her mother's secrets

When her mother developed Alzheimer's disease, journalist Wendyl Nissen felt compelled to find out the truth about her mum, who'd vacillated between nice and nasty her whole life. 

Wendyl Nissen

 Wendyl Nissen Photo: School Road Publishers

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