It Takes A Village

Nine to Noon's Kathryn Ryan interviews parenting experts to help you navigate the trends, trials & tough calls of modern family life.

Hosted by Kathryn Ryan

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When kids want to quit sport or other activities

What is the right way to deal with your kids wanting to quit a sport or an extracurricular activity? Whether it's their first year doing it, or they've been working at it for a decade, it can be a difficult territory for parents and kids to navigate. Sport NZ surveys show kids from 5 to 11 are usually the most active participants in sport, while there is a big dropoff once they reach ages 15 to 17. So, keep dragging unwilling kids to their sports or let them let it go? Kathryn Berkett has her Masters in Educational Psychology and runs her practice Engage which she uses to teach others about using neuroscience in everyday life.
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Football match for children. Training and football soccer tournament

Parenting: how to talk about body image issues with teenagers

When it comes to body image, it's near impossible to escape pressures to look a certain way - and teenagers especially vulnerable to it. Even with body positive movements in recent years, relentless messaging from the fashion industry and social media it still taking a toll. But how can you tell if it's something your teenager is struggling with? And and what's the best way to approach a conversation about it? Answering these questions is Catherine Gallagher, a Christchurch-based clinical psychologist who has worked across public and private sectors for two decades, with a particular focus on children and young people.
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Fostering creativity in children

We're looking at what creativity is, why it is important and also how it is not just a preserve of the arts. Kathryn's guest is Mark Osborne - he set up Leading Learning which covers a range of educational services including leadership development and mentoring, curriculum development and creating innovative learning environments.
Group of kids 3-4 years old with toy musical instruments. Early music education in kindergarten

Building a love of the outdoors in young children

Shoshannah Shand's second child was six weeks old when she took her on an overnight tramp for the first time - along with her toddler. The Christchurch solo mum of two has thousands of followers on social media for her adventures with her children. She says kids love the outdoors, and she wants parents to know that getting into the backcountry is do-able.
Shoshanna Shand tramping with her son

How to get your children to do stuff

This may sound like living in Utopia - getting your children to tidy their rooms, eat vegetables, the list goes on. Christiane Kehoe is a researcher of child behaviour based at the University of Melbourne, and also the co-author of the Tuning in to Toddlers, Tuning in to Kids, and Tuning in to Teens parenting programmes. She shares some parenting strategies and tips to avert friction.
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The importance of being honest with kids

Educator, speaker, mum and parenting commentator Karen Boyes on the importance of being honest with kids. She is CEO of Spectrum Education, Principal of Spectrum Online Academy and the author of 13 books. She says teachers and parents have a delicate balance of inspiring children, while preparing them for the realities of life. She says telling kids 'learning is fun' and 'high grades will get you ahead in life' is well-meaning but ultimately misleading.
Dad Helping Girl Struggling With Studies

Bullying: preventing and addressing

Whether your child is being bullied, or your child is being a bully, Dr Karyn Healy has advice. She is an Australian registered psychologist who has worked with schools, parents and children to prevent and address bullying, and resolve conflict. She co-authored a family programme to address school bullying called the Resilience Triple P program. Dr Healy says parents can help children manage conflict.
Little boy sitting alone on floor after suffering an act of bullying while children run in the background.

Play with your food, and don't disguise vegetables

When Jennifer Anderson became a mother, she - like many new parents - realised the uphill battle that can be mealtimes. Getting young kids to eat their greens, voluntarily, isn't always straightforward - and advice on how to encourage them is polarising. Do you force them to sit and finish their plate, bribe them with dessert... and at what point, do you just give up on the brussel sprouts? But Ms Anderson, a registered dietician, took that angst, and honed in on a specialty in feeding children and picky eating. She founded Kids Eat in Color - a resource to help families feed their children, from their first bite of solid food right through to elementary-aged nutrition needs.
Close up family eating at dining table. (Photo by Paul Bradbury/Caia image/SCIENCE / NEW / Science Photo Library via AFP)

With so many education apps - how can parents know which ones are good?

The phrase "there's an app for that" certainly applies in the education space - one estimate puts numbers available on the Apple and Google Play stores at nearly 400,000. But are they any good?
A child using an app for study.

Do sticker charts help or harm?

The big question for many parents of young children is - how can I get my kids to do what I'm asking them to do?
Close Up Of Child With Reward Chart

Parenting: the impact of traditional masculinity on boys

New York Times contributor Andrew Reiner writes about traditional roles previously assigned to men and boys affects their lives.
Teenage boy wearing a hoodie and backpack walks past a graffiti'd wall and wire fence

Maggie Dent: Queen of Commonsense Parenting

Maggie Dent is known as the Queen of Commonsense Parenting. She's a former high school teacher, counsellor, mother of four sons, grandmother of seven, author of numerous books and the host of the ABC podcast Parental as Anything. Her latest book is called Help Me, Help My Teen. And Maggie's coming to Auckland next month for two public sessions: Mothering our Boys and Calming Today's Anxious Kids. Send questions for Maggie to 2101 on text or email ninetonoon@rnz.co.nz

I'm a helpful dad, so why do the kids only want mum?

Parenting commentator Nathan Wallis joins Paddy Gower to talk about what to do when child only wants the other parent.
Father with sad child

Lucy Foulkes: Why teens behave the way they do

Dr Lucy Foulkes is an academic psychologist at the University of Oxford, and her new book draws on decades of research to reveal why teens behave they way they do.
Dr Lucy Foulkes, author of Coming of Age

Parenting: How to talk to your children about setbacks

A University of Auckland led study has investigated how parents discuss setbacks with their children - and the correlation with a child's fear of making mistakes.
Children at Arakura School in Lower Hutt line up for free lunch, on 18 March, 2024.